Therapy isn’t about becoming someone different.
If you've found your way here, there's a good chance you've spent a long time trying to change yourself.
Perhaps you've tried to become more confident, stop overthinking or feel less anxious in social situations. Maybe you've pushed yourself to "just be yourself", only to find that the harder you try, the more self-conscious you become.
I don't believe lasting change comes from trying harder.
I believe it begins by making sense of why you feel the way you do.
That's where our work together starts.
Work with Me.
What brings people to therapy?
Many of the people I work with look as though they're coping well.
They're thoughtful, capable and successful in many areas of life. They perform well at work, are committed partners, loyal friends and genuinely care about the people around them.
Yet privately, life can feel very different.
Perhaps you're confident in your job, but dread the networking event afterwards.
You sit with friends or your partner's family wishing you could relax, yet the quieter you become, the more aware you are of yourself. You start wondering if everyone has noticed.
Maybe you compare yourself with the friend who's naturally funny, quick with a story or always knows what to say. You find yourself thinking, "Why can't I just be more like that?"
You replay conversations on the drive home, wondering whether you came across as awkward, quiet or boring.
When you're struggling, you don't always talk about it. Instead, you withdraw, become quieter or more irritable, even with the people you care about most.
Over time, it's easy to start believing that other people know something you don't—that they're naturally more confident, more relaxed or somehow better at being themselves.
Many people arrive in therapy asking the same question:
"Why am I like this?"
How we’ll work together.
I don't believe therapy should begin with techniques.
Before we focus on change, we'll first make sense of what's been happening.
Together, we'll explore your experiences, the beliefs you've developed about yourself and how these continue to shape your life today. Many people tell me this is the first time everything has truly made sense.
From there, we'll use practical, evidence-based CBT to gently challenge old patterns, build confidence through new experiences and create meaningful, lasting change.
Because when you make sense of yourself, it's much easier to move forwards.
What therapy might help you discover.
Over time, clients often notice changes that go beyond simply feeling less anxious. They find themselves:
Speaking more freely without rehearsing every sentence.
Enjoying conversations instead of analysing themselves throughout them.
Feeling calmer around friends, colleagues and family.
Trusting their own judgement.
Becoming less driven by self-criticism.
Feeling more accepting of who they are, rather than who they think they should be.
The goal isn’t to become louder, more outgoing or someone else entirely.
It’s to feel comfortable being yourself.
Is this the right approach for you?
My approach tends to work well for people who are curious about themselves and want to make sense of why they've been feeling this way—not simply find ways to manage their symptoms.
People who are willing to gently experiment with new ways of thinking and responding between sessions.
People who are looking for both understanding and practical change.
Therapy is a collaborative process.
I'll bring my experience and knowledge.
You'll bring your experiences, curiosity and willingness to explore.
Together, we'll help your story make sense—and from there, begin creating meaningful and lasting change.
Taking the first step.
Starting therapy can feel daunting, especially if it's your first time.
That's why I offer a free 15-minute consultation.
It's an opportunity for us to talk about what's been happening, answer any questions you have and see whether working together feels like the right fit.
If it does, we'll begin the process of making sense of your story, so you can stop fighting yourself and start living with greater confidence, self-acceptance and freedom.